網紅的藏寶箱The hardest part of motherhood in the beginning, apart from breastfeeding, was probably misformation and unsolicited advice.
Prior to delivering, i read so many books pertaining to sleep training. Googled so much about how to, in unpretentious words, control my child. How to make my life more convenient and predictable by giving her a schedule that would fit into mine.
Within the first month, Layla managed to sleep for a stretch of 6hrs at night. But it had nothing to do with any of the sleeping training books i read. Nothing worked, she just doesn't like to nap in the afternoon. I attempted the 'cry it out' method twice. Once for 20mins, second time for 5mins. Both times i failed and end up crying together w her.
Since following @mothernourishnature, i learnt that there's nothing wrong with nursing my child to sleep, carrying and holding her whenever she cries, loving her with all that i have isn't going to spoil her because she's not a banana. All that my child wants is my love and comfort. Instead of assuming she's trying to manipulate me and coming up with long-term scheming plans to condition me, I've decided to just follow her lead and take her cues.
She's now starting to feast on her knuckles. I would have freaked out in the past, finding ways to stop her from forming a 'bad habit' of sucking her thumb in the long run. But now, i just watch how she slowly explores her body with her mouth. And trust that she knows.
So instead of worrying about potential problems that might arise in the future, I'm learning to live in the Now. Sometimes the expectations society have on parenting are more stifling for mothers than anything else. And so I've decided to not subscribe to it.
Her afternoon naps are unpredictable. Sometimes she sleeps for a few hrs, sometimes a few mins, sometimes none at all. I can't plan my day at all. So be it! I embrace this 'inconvenience' and be grateful that she has more awake time to play with me than other moms. Lucky me!
Every child is unique. Hear them. They are able to speak without words.
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